Life consist of Ups and Downs

Life consist of Ups and Downs

True story no doubt, Life consist of Ups and Downs. life can truly be a monumental mind fuck at times, in regards to personal, professional or just life in general. Over the weekend I got to sit down with an old friend from over a decade ago, who just happened to be visiting my city, small world sometimes, but thanks to technology it can make it even smaller. Anyway it’s kinda amazing because ten years ago from friend was not really the pinnacle of high brain activity when it came to life, the philosophy was life as it comes. But I guess when life teaches you lessons over ten plus years, sharing them becomes a part of your life purpose.

Anyway a little back story and I do mean a little. Late last year 2013, I made what was to be a life changing, ultra altering decision. At the time I felt it was the right choice to make given the circumstances I was in. But from day one, I struggled with the choice I had made, it bothered me on a daily basis, where it almost began to consume my life and more importantly negatively affect my job performance.

fucking up the money is never good

But as time moved on, the situation began to resolve itself more smoothly in my mind’s eye and I became more positive in the thinking that I had indeed made the right decision. But like many flawed humans there was a niggles in the back on the mind, questioning it, over thinking it, holding on to it, harping on it, a real good no grease mind fuck if you will. This all came to a head, when certain things came to light that made me finally see that the decision I made was not only the right one, but should have been made a looooooooooong time ago.

Anyway so back to this weekend, so chllin with my amigo, they decided to drop some gems on myself.

Gem #1

in life always trying to focus on the positive.

Now this is a given, I’m the type of person who prefers balance, I think a fraction of negative thinking is necessary in life, I think always being focused on the positive is the same as burying your head in the sand when it comes to certain issues. I actually have some friends and know of some people who like to pretend they’re focus is always positive, but when I notice the twist, I usually just laugh to myself, rather than point it out.

Gem #2

Don’t listen to the co-signers of your bullshit, learn to recognize when you, yourself are spewing bullshit and always be weary of folks who are quick to side with you on it, rather pay attention to the folks that surround you and will question you on and call you on your bullshit.

I have to agree with this, I’ve witnessed too many times people will just jump on board with something and not question any internal detail, like someone complaining about their job while having a drink and their “friends” are all like “fuck that job” blah blah blah or relationships same situation “fuck that chic, never liked her anyway, Neno Brown her ass, cancel her and buy another one!! Friends or acquaintances like this need to be watched. So you’re with someone, but this person doesn’t like them, never says anything to you about it until shit hits the fan, a little too convenient right? I have a friend, a true friend in my eyes, chic always calling me on my shit or what she considers my shit, has helped me tremendously over the years, would probably have to kill her if we stopped being friends Ha joke joke, I kid I kid. but yea seriously she knows too much!!

Gems #3

Learn the importance of letting go completely, erasing memories, not dwelling and staying forward focused

At this point that song lyric just entered my mind you know the one

Memories don’t live like people do
They always ‘member you
Whether things are good or bad
It’s just the memories that you have

Great now I have the song stuck in my head… moving on, reminiscing good, dwelling bad, pondering, obsessing, getting big serious style angry really bad. GOT IT!!

So this discussion went on for a while, more gems were dropped, yes life does consist of ups and downs, but focusing on those UPs should be the cornerstone of everyone’s existence, I don’t have to badmind people or care if they wish me nothing but the worst, I fuck with who rides with me and leave the past in the past, even if it made up the history of your life. Decisions made have to be lived with, I made mine and it turned out to be one of the best for all persons involved in the equation, giving people the freedom to do what they want is a good thing. But overall the bottom line is summed up perfectly in the Bushman Classic Everyday…… take it away